How would you react if you found out that your wife of 10 years has all along been cheating on you in matters of finance? How would you react if you learned further that despite the fact that you are living ina rented apartment, your wife is building an apartment in the village all in the name of her father? How would you react if you discovered that you borrowed money from your wife to buy her a car but in real life, she single-handedly bought her brother a car which they both use to make money?<\/em><\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n Well below is a narration from one Frank who shared his experience with her wife and the story unfolds….<\/p>\n\n\n\n When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren\u2019t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She said, \u201cI\u2019ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.\u201d I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n I got tired and paid the money when I didn\u2019t have much in my account. One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife\u2019s email that had been opened. I asked her, \u201cDid you use my laptop?\u201d She answered, \u201cYeah I was checking something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n told her, \u201cThen you didn\u2019t log out.\u201d She answered, \u201cI forgot. Please log out for me.\u201d I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, \u201cJanuary Payslip.\u201d I opened and started going through<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. GHC4,734? And this girl has been crying poverty? I went through the details. That night I couldn\u2019t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We\u2019ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn\u2019t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n All my life I\u2019ve held the view that it wasn\u2019t right for anyone to go through their partner\u2019s phone. It\u2019s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, \u201cThank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.\u201d She has only one brother\u2014her senior brother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money.<\/p>\n\n\n\n From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn\u2019t mind. I believed what\u2019s hers was also mine. The next morning she realized I wasn\u2019t looking well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, \u201cSo why would you do that to me?\u201d She asked, \u201cWhat have I done?\u201d I answered, \u201cYou bought land, you never told me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n you started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?\u201d She was shocked. She asked, \u201cWho told you all that?\u201d I said, \u201cYour father did.\u201d She stood quiet for a while. She asked, \u201cWhy would my father tell you all that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n What were you people talking about\u201d I said, \u201cI don\u2019t know. You can ask him.\u201d We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: \u201cMy father wants to talk to you.\u201d The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry<\/p>\n\n\n\n He asked, almost shouting, \u201cYou said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?\u201d I asked, \u201cIs it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you\u2019re supervising?\u201d He asked me, \u201cI told you that?\u201d I asked, \u201cIs it true or not?<\/p>\n\n\n\n After the back and forth I told them, \u201cI read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You\u2019re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you<\/p>\n\n\n\n He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.\u201d My wife stood there motionless, didn\u2019t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I said, \u201cYet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I\u2019m a fool? You\u2019ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you\u2019re my wife? I hear. We\u2019ll see.\u201d Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn\u2019t have to blame his daughter. I told him, \u201cThe emotional state I\u2019m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. \u201cDon\u2019t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I listened to them. My position was still the same. \u201cI need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.\u201d From last month to this moment that I\u2019m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn\u2019t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly<\/p>\n\n\n\n She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn\u2019t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I\u2019m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first.<\/p>\n\n\n\n she told me, \u201cIf you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.\u201d Guess whose name is on the property\u2026her father\u2019s name.\u201d I told her, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to change anything. They are yours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.\u201d The land I bought has our names. I\u2019m selling it and take my money back. The car she\u2019s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she\u2019ll pay for the car.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She\u2019s getting the message and I\u2019m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I\u2019m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won\u2019t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I\u2019ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions<\/p>\n\n\n\n To anyone reading this – May God heal you of whatever it is that is causing you pain, hurt & unhappiness. May you find Joy & Peace. 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